Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
I don’t know if it’s cocky, but it sounds like you’re maturing well. Realizing that some people are not worth your energy and, in fact, will only ever drain you and give you nothing in return is an important part of growing up.
No, I don’t think it is cocky at all, and in fact, I would view it as a sign of maturity for one to see that not everyone’s opinion is worth listening to. The unfortunate fact is that most adults have no original thoughts of their own, are stuck in old ways of doing things simply due to familiarity, and grow older without necessarily becoming wiser by living life on autopilot.
Wisdom comes from observing the world and one’s internal thoughts and patterns, and this is beyond the ability and interest of most people, so engaging with them in complex discussions is a waste of time and energy. As one matures, social groups tend to narrow, and a large part of maturing is finding people whom you respect, can learn from, and enjoy spending time with. You have limited time and energy, and not everyone is worth it.
Don’t let people make you feel bad about being selective. People with low self-esteem can feel threatened when they see someone making positive changes and having higher standards for themselves.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
If you don’t argue for small reasons, what does it say about you? Does it show that a person who is not arguing is more mature and strong?
See, if the reasons or issues are small for you, it is evident that they don’t seem that important to you. That’s it.
A friend of mine once told me, “What is small or insignificant for you may be important for the other person. Don’t judge based on your perspective only.“
And if the other person is reacting or arguing more, the issue holds a little more significance to him/her.
It doesn’t mean anything. All this is circumstantial. The day you find reasons big enough for you, you can’t remain silent on them. You will speak out.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Is there ever a time when it is okay for people to get mad at someone else if they don’t admit when they are wrong and keep arguing instead of admitting it?
Some people are just stubborn. Stubborn like a mule, a mule, I tell you. Sometimes, the proof could be right in front of their faces, and they’ll still do their best to argue it.
Is there ever a time when it is okay for people to get mad at someone else if they don’t admit when they are wrong and keep arguing instead of admitting it?
Get mad; I’m sure that can be justified. Continuing to be mad, not as much. Sometimes, you have to let it go. Move on. Try to help them differently at a different time.
You never know. You may be the one who’s convinced they’re right but are, in fact, wrong. It happens. Just do what you can do to be your best you.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Why are so many people concerned with doing what is cool or popular instead of just being themselves?
That’s because they want to be noticed. They want to be known. It’s always a good feeling to be popular- everyone loves you, everyone thinks you’re good, you have power, you have EVERYTHING.
This is like so many other things- You need to work hard for it. People try so hard that they forget basic human behavior. They don’t even notice what they’re doing until it’s too late.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Why are so many people concerned with doing what is cool or popular instead of just being themselves?
Thank you, my friend, for asking me to reply to your question. Good Afternoon.
Human beings are very social creatures. All of us want to belong to “the society of our peers,” whatever grouping of people makes up that community.
Because it is so important for us to feel like we do belong, “peer group pressure” is not only a very real thing but an enormously powerful force with which we must continually contend.
All of this makes it awfully difficult for a lot of folks to “be their person.’’ All of us need to do much more than acknowledge diverse cultures; we need to celebrate that diversity, whether in a different culture or in a unique individual who has conquered their fear of being unique.
Now, don’t forget to turn your bathroom scale back fifteen pounds, or you’ll be in for a shock on January 2nd.
I sincerely hope you have a joyous holiday season, my friend, you and your entire family.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
What’s the best way to deal with people who try to act all flashy and cool but have no personality or character?
Be the bigger person, ignore them, and move on.
The flashy and cool guy could have a personality and character that of an egotistical, self-centered person who thinks they’re the main character.
The person who is just ego, narcissistic, flashy, and cool just to put themselves higher because they feel they’re higher are a bunch of selfish idiots.
If you are dealing with one of these dumb show-offs, it is best not to be associated with them or socialize with them and leave them be because that will help get your mind off of their issues. You focus on yourself and let them be you; the bigger person takes the high road and walks away.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
What’s the best way to deal with people who try to act all flashy and cool but have no personality or character?
I am pleasant but keep my distance. I would rather enjoy my interesting friends and activities. They should mature and develop some depth of character.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people? Does that sound cocky?
No. It sounds like you’re quite young, but not a child, so I’d say the early to mid-20s. You’re starting to value your time, but you’re still young (naive) enough to think that your will has any real effect on how much of it other people can waste. Also, don’t underestimate your brain’s propensity toward trying too hard to impress people.
Enjoy feeling empowered while it lasts. Hopefully, I’m wrong, and you can enjoy your time not arguing or trying to be cool.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Why do people think they are ‘so cool,’ and what makes them think that?
Originally Answered: Why do people think they are ‘so cool,’ and what makes them think that?
Typically, people, like I believe you are describing, are projecting a false image of themselves to others. They are compensating for internal feelings of inadequacy and are worried that others can clearly see the cracks in the facade.
Conversely, people who actually ‘are’ cool are comfortable in their skin, and their confidence quietly radiates from that.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
What do you think of people who refuse to have arguments?
- They think or know you’re an idiot or politically/ideologically motivated.
- It’s a holiday or otherwise the wrong place.
- They don’t really care.
- You’re drunk.
- You’re not willing to listen and only want to make assertions.
- They’re smarter than you and know there’s nothing to be gained.
- They aren’t that type of person.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
What do you think of people who refuse to have arguments?
Some people don’t like confrontations. Others may have reservations about their ability to argue successfully. Others may consider other people’s opinions of such little value they don’t concern themselves with anything other than their views. There are even people who refuse to argue out of a false sense of superiority, thinking their views matter more than others.
I think it’s impossible to tell which is which, and I’m sure there are alternatives I haven’t listed as well. So, I don’t pass judgment on a person who refuses to argue just because of the fact.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
How do you tone down your cool around people offended by you for being much cooler than them?
Two-Way Street:
(1). If your “cool“ involves being rude, nasty, abrasive, or abusive, you’re just going to have to take a little ownership of it and stop the crap.
(2). If it doesn’t, then it’s the “offended” people who have the problem because they can’t untether themselves from their dislike of you.
Why do people think their opinions are facts and still argue after they are proven wrong?
Pride not being mature enough to accept being wrong or wanting it to be true so much they refuse to accept the truth, so they close their eyes to it. They change the story to fit their agenda. And it’s an epidemic at the moment.
Why do people think their opinions are facts and still argue after they are proven wrong?
People may think their opinions are facts and still argue them after being proven wrong because they question the factfinding process used, or they intuitively think they’re correct. And then there’s just bull-headedness when neither of the above applies. Now, if they question the factfinding process, the process could be redone with a better design to ensure accuracy that could be agreed on by all concerned. However, the cost to do so may be exorbitant or prohibitive. Intuition in the face of widespread disagreement may be impossible to prove, especially when dealing with intangibles, including what does not exist.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Are some people just cool, and others just aren’t?
Some people don’t have anything to prove. They don’t have ulterior motives, and what you see is what you get, and that’s JUST all right with them. They are comfortable in their skin and want you to be, too. And if you’re good, you can spot them a mile away. That’s the cool part. 🙂
Are some people just cool, and others just aren’t?
Define “coolness”. This definition varies from culture to culture, country to country. Generally, we can perceive some universal definition of coolness as one being trendy in fashion, being street smart in their interpersonal reaction, being openly skeptical towards authority, and possessing mannerisms that seem flashy and mesmerizing to the regular individual but sometimes distasteful to the more educated or refined individual.
What is cool? The cool kids in school were generally the bad kids in school in North American culture.
A non-English speaker who is just learning English might misconstrue the definition of “coolness” as someone who is cold-blooded, but in reality, “being cool” is just a pseudonym for being popular or possessing traits that make one socially desirable to a wide varying range of different socio-cultural subgroups.
The Turks have a word for it, which many South Slavic languages have also adopted as part of their vocabulary – hangup – which would usually translate to something like scoundrel or street smart. When one can universally deal with difficult people such as cops or criminals, swindle businessmen or politicians, bullshit bullshitters, and smooth-talk women.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Think of the 1920s mobster or the 1950s greaser in his psychological profile, or many cops, criminals, and lawyers of today. They are street-smart, socially adaptable individuals loved by both men and women.
It’s usually a positive thing to say to someone, not a negative thing. I don’t think the English language has a word that fits this profile directly, aside from obscure terms like “street smart” or terms that carry more negative connotations like “scoundrel.”
First, you have to break down what makes a person cool in your own culture. Then, you can mimic these characteristics in an attempt to make yourself look cool. This is how I learned coolness. I went from being a goodie-two-shoes fat kid with a high-pitched voice wearing grandpa sweaters to always being one of the most popular people in the room.
And I can still concentrate and openly flaunt my intellectual pursuits and weird hobbies without being labeled a nerd or a geek in a negative context.
Because I know how to mix subcultures, I get along and can sympathize with a lot of people. But it did take a lot of trial and error, heartbreak, suffering, hard work, and hard moments. I had to put myself with people and in situations most people wouldn’t normally want to be in.
But think of it as a mental or emotional exercise instead of a series of difficult tasks you have to painstakingly do in order to achieve a goal that seems so far away, and you’re so lazy and comfortable in your current safe space.
I went from being a loner or the bullied to sitting at the same table as doctors, lawyers, judges, politicians, police chiefs, military officers, engineers, psychologists, philosophers, teachers, business people, gangsters, drug dealers, prostitutes, pimps, arms dealers, murderers, rapists, pedophiles, war criminals, and terrorists.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
No, I’m serious. I can make people of all sorts see me as an equal, isolate people, and forcefully humble people who see me as an inferior. Social interaction nowadays – despite who you’re doing it with or what risks are involved – has somewhat become a funny game similar to how international politics is a funny game to Vladimir Putin.
You can always see that smirk on his face, like it’s a funny little game to him, something as serious as diplomacy and international politics and war like it’s so easy to do. He’s so confident, and he has this confident smirk on his face the whole time, as it brings him fuzzy warmth and happiness at how easy it is.
Like a university fine arts student helping a struggling kindergartner in a potato painting.
If you practice enough, you can perfect any look, style, talk, or walk. In the English language, I had 3 initial styles of speaking in my repertoire – New York Italian, dark CIA agent, and North American large city ghetto Ebonics.
I had to get rid of the third out of habit because, frankly, it looks dumb for somebody who looks more like a mobster through genetic predispositions and cultural brainwashing to act like a Crip member. I felt it was stupid, and I felt that actual Crip members felt it was stupid.
I’ll also tell you there are ways to sound smart and cool at the same time without looking like an annoying, self-absorbed misanthrope, like Sheldon’s character from the Big Bang Theory. It’s all about how you disseminate the information and how you execute the presentation.
Also, for those who say some things should come naturally and one should not fake a persona to make themselves seem cool…don’t listen to this advice. Habit is something that has been repeated to the point of being second nature.
I can confirm this, as I’ve consciously broken bad habits and adopted new ones and then broken those only to adopt new ones yet again, to see if it works, as a sort of psychological experiment, and I can confirm it works.
I’ve become people I’m not, like an actor who is so convincing you forget he’s playing a role.
It’s just bad when you lose track of the persona and the reason behind it, and you are stuck in character and can’t undo everything.
How can I stop proving that I am cool to people who look (looked) down on me?
Short answer: Stop.
Longer answer: If you need to ‘prove’ to those others that you’re cool, then they aren’t worth associating with. Be yourself, always. Do that long enough, and people who think you’re already cool will naturally be drawn to you.
Me? I stopped worrying about this when I was around 30. Guess what happened?
People liked me more and thought I was cool when I didn’t try so hard to impress. Now? What you see is what you get. It’s not changing for anyone. It’s unfair to yourself, and it’s unfair to them.
How can I stop proving that I am cool to people who look (looked) down on me?
You stop by, deciding you don’t need to prove anything.
One of the best ways to get out of the need to prove that you’re worthy (aka cool) is to become more worthy of yourself. The more content you feel with yourself, the less you will care about how others see you.
Check out resources on “positive psychology” as a first step to appreciating yourself more.
What do people do that they think makes them cool or unique but actually informs you that they are a loser?
I don’t want to be mean to her because she is still a close friend, and although she may be pretty and talented in certain areas, she lacks in others.
She used to be really nice, but she changed.
Now, whenever she takes a picture, she has her middle finger up.
She’ll pass me in the hallways at school and say, “I failed my math test.” And continue to laugh.
She’ll laugh about how she has C’s in multiple subjects and say how she doesn’t really care.
I hope she fixes herself. I tried to help tutor her, but she always refused my help. I pray she doesn’t do anything to mess up her life even more (Alcohol, drugs, getting pregnant at a young age, etc…………).
How are some people so good at arguing while others are not? I cannot defend my argument even when it’s perfectly sensible, while there are people who are capable of backing the silliest arguments.
I’ll preface this with: I teach debate.
The problem a lot of people start with in debating is often one of confidence. We all have opinions on practically everything, but if you haven’t spent any time actually analyzing why, you’re going to have a hard time defending your position if challenged for the first time.
A good debater often uses evidence to back up what he or she says. Just saying: “I believe that…” is never enough to convince another person. If you go back to the origin of where an argument and opinion originates, you can develop a thought process as to how logical an acceptance of that side is.
The other thing I often teach new debaters is that you have to be dispassionate about your arguments. The more you buy into your premise, the harder it is to defend against any detractor. What I often suggest is to take one step out of an issue and see it from a perspective that offers no opinion. Argue through the logic of something in your head, and then when it comes to taking a side, you can do so with both perspectives in mind. This helps you prepare for any criticisms.
Do I sound cocky by saying that I stopped arguing with people 2024?
Avoid fallacies. They are the defeat of practically every argument (meaning you lose). You should be very aware of any such fallacies because if you are using those to make an argument, there’s no logic. Also, if you understand fallacies completely, you can recognize them when used by others.
Argumentation doesn’t have to mean heated debate. Consistent logic can lead to great conversations, and at the same time, always remember that Aristotle appreciated debate for learning. When you shut yourself off to another opinion, you are incapable of learning, thus rendering yourself an imbecile.
A fair part of it has to do with personality and how you arrive at your conclusions as a result. My brother and I are both clever, but I am cold and methodical, while he is intuitive. He uses his experience and intuition to form new opinions; if something seems reasonable and consistent with what he knows, he will accept it and move on. I am more likely to watch debates, listen to arguments, and try to be as logical as I can in forming my opinions. As a result of this, I generally have a better understanding of the typical arguments that are used, as well as some of my own, and I can defend exactly how I arrived at my conclusion. Even though he is clever and arrives at reasonable beliefs, I have found he cannot debate to save his life, not that he usually cares too.
How do I deal with someone who likes to argue?
Just remain calm and say you don’t wish to engage in conflict. Walk away
Just know that if you lose your cool or become emotional, they get what they want…. power and control.
People who like to argue are not looking for answers or solutions… they are looking to win. Win at what? What they are good at is arguing. Why are they looking to win? Because they want to feel in control by feeling superior to you. Why do they want to do this? Because they learned early in life to resolve conflict this way and never outgrew it. Why didn’t they outgrow it? Mostly because they never resolved the inner conflicts that affected their self-worth and confidence when they were children. What conflicts? Usually, the same ones their caregivers internalized for them who were the same way. These eristic people argue because they are reacting to how they feel…. insecure. They feel insecure for whatever reason their thoughts at that moment have triggered a negative feeling (unresolved experiences from childhood).
Thoughts produce feelings; feelings trigger reactions.
There is a difference between debating (respectfully trying to find solutions to a problem by sharing differences and perhaps agreeing to disagree) and people who are just trying to argue for the sake of it. The goal, in this case, is not to understand… but to make you feel lesser than them. Fault finding, contradicting, and criticizing your character are the main goals.. nothing else.
A good guideline I learned (as per past behavior studies from professionals) is a person who likes to engage in conflict is doing so because their heart rate is beating fast. When a person’s heart rate gets fast enough (like running), they cannot physically process information. In other words, they aren’t capable of listening and learning from you. After all, that is not why they want to argue, to begin with.
The only way to handle these situations is not to argue back and remain calm.
How do I win an argument with someone who will never admit that he’s wrong?
Originally Answered: How do I win an argument with someone who will never admit he’s wrong?
There actually is a way to do this, and I know someone who consistently did it.
She was a great listener. She would listen to her adversary talk about his interests for a long time until a level of trust and respect developed. When she sensed that the time was right, she would bring up the issue that he was opposed to. She would frame it as a question such as: Is there some way you could imagine such and such being the case?
They then would think through the issue together, with her dropping hints so that he would reach her conclusion as if it were his idea!
She was a genius, and she was my wife.
How do I win an argument with someone who will never admit that he’s wrong?
My dad taught me this trick when I would fight with my older sister growing up.
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At the climax of the argument, I would say in my most calm and collective tone, “You know what, maybe you’re right,” and start walking away.
My dad would say that to my mom in their arguments, and I don’t know if it’s just the women in my family, but that would drive my mom and sister absolutely insane.
I still use that trick with argumentative people.
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But as I delved deeper into my archetype, I couldn’t help but think how true everything was.
When some people think they’re saying “X,” what are they actually saying? A simple example is that people often think they’re saying, “I can’t,” when they’re actually saying, “I won’t!”
First, thank you for the invite, Charles, and sorry I’m so late to the party. I have something that might be an answer; I’ll try to squeeze it into the question.
I find many people are hurt and angry because someone didn’t do something for them (whatever that something was). They may say mean words, lay blame, or provoke guilt. What they are really saying is, “If you loved me, you would know what I need or want. You should be able to read my mind so I don’t have to ask”.
It’s a very vulnerable thing to ask for what you need when you may be rejected. Then, you will only get your needs met and will be accepted. On Top Of It! This mostly applies to the deep-down need for love. Comfort, support, or plain old help in changing the sheets.
One day, I was very, very sad about something that was happening in my life. My mother didn’t understand why I was hurt (lack of empathy), and she was angry, short, and plain out to blame me for it. I could have been angry (and I was) and started a fight (I wanted to) and made her wrong for not understanding (she was wrong and insensitive). What I needed was a hug, and what I did was look at her with tears in my eyes (real tears, I had been crying) and ask her if she would hold me. That’s what I needed: my mummy to hold me. She melted instantly, held me, and cried with me. She said, “I’m sorry, I just don’t understand.” I said, “You don’t need to understand; I just need you to love me.” Wow! That worked out well. It was 50/50 that she wouldn’t get even more angry (she has in the past).
If you want or need something, dare to ask for it. If you don’t dare to ask for it, you have no right to blame anyone for not providing it. Ask for help, ask for love, ask for comfort. It’s what we’re here for.
When some people think they’re saying “X,” what are they actually saying? A simple example is that people often think they’re saying, “I can’t,” when they’re actually saying, “I won’t!”
“I would explain it to you, but you wouldn’t understand.”
or
“It’s too complex for me to teach you.”
normally means
“I don’t understand this enough to explain it to you.”
and
“I’m bad at teaching”.
I realize I’ve been guilty of this as well. Nowadays, I make sure to write, read, edit, and repeat obsessively until I’m satisfied that there’s no simpler way to get my point across.
Having a conversation with myself works, too. I pretend there’s one version of me who understands something and the other who doesn’t; then, I refine the explanation until it’s perfect. Most of the advice I give others (especially on fitness-related topics) has already been rehearsed myself beforehand. I’m weird like that.
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